Ok, so let's just get one thing straight, a marriage is a partnership right? And it is a relationship based on give and take. There are times when one must give more and take less and vice versa.
Do I have that right or have I been completely mislead for my entire life? Silly me. I thought that each person was supposed to be supportive of the other, not stealing the spirit away from them. I also thought that give and take meant that, as I said, it was somewhat equal. Not just one person doing all the giving and the other doing all the taking. Am I wrong? So what happens when the one who is doing all the taking says there is something wrong with the give and take in this relationship--meaning that this person thinks he's doing all the giving.
I know this is a little bizarre, but there is entirely too much to write much more of the story right now. And I'm entirely too ticked off to be very rational about it all.
Thanks for reading. I'm curious to see if you all agree with me... or if I've lost my mind. Which is entirely possible.
9 comments:
Nope you're not crazy but you know who is... I won't name names but you know.
You're a saint! I'd have hurt the nameless one by now.
no definitly not crazy. i have heard of situations like that though, and i have one solution for you if you want it (or whoever you're talking about wants it): it's a book called the five love languages, and it totally rocks. but both partners have to read it, and both agree to learn their significant other's language. but it's a great book, and everone should read it. hang in there!
Hey T, when you're ready I think you should give folks the low down on the situation. Once people know the situation they'll be able give you all the support and help you need. But only when you're ready to hash it out and deal with all the all the repercussions that will surely come.
Btw Liz, I've heard great things about that book! I found it on sale for five bucks. I've not read it yet but I do have it and will read it. I also picked up His Needs Her Needs a while back. It too is awesome. I highly recommend it.
T if ya ever want to borrow it let me know.
Love ya tons and tons! Come see me!!!!!!!! Ooooo we need to take a road trip to Louisville when I come in next! I have a couple addresses I'd like to check out and a person or two I'd like to see. :)
who's the author of his needs her needs? always looking for marital self help books. that is one area that can ALWAYS be tweaked!
Wilard Harley. It's fantastic. I read a lot of those types of books too. I know that I will be married some day so it's good to do research.
Dana, I'm almost ready to let people in on the situation. After this incident, my whole outlook has changed on a few things.
You have amazing courage! I love you and count you among my most precious blessings.
FPDN Foreva!!!!!!!!!
FEMINIST PRAIRIE-DOG NINJAS RULE!!!
And Liz, I have that book as well (the Five Love Languages), but like you said, both partners have to read it and learn from it. And unfortunately that isn't going to happen in the current situation.
Louisville, eh? Well, I'm not opposed. But you realize that I will have to go Ninja on this random woman who has stolen a piece of your peace. After that's done, we can visit whomever you please... (wink wink nudge nudge)
We'll tag-team her using our ninja skill. Then situation permitting I would like to introduce you to someone that I'm sure truly appreciates the way of the ninja. LOL! Girl there's great big world just waitin' for ya!!!
Have hope!
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